Confidence and Courage: Choosing to Change Your Life

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Confidence and courage are the two guiding factors in making potent and lasting change in our lives.

Change, although feared by some people, is something that should be sought after every single day. Because if you’re not changing, you’re not growing. And if you’re not growing, you’re not living. Everything that is alive in our world grows. The plants, the animals, the people—all of these things experience change.

Change means getting uncomfortable. Embracing that discomfort requires courage. And taking small courageous steps away from your comfort zone develops confidence in yourself and the unknown.

Confidence and Courage

Let’s talk about the difference between confidence and courage.

confidence and courage

Confidence

Confidence is defined as “a state of being certain either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Confidence comes from a latin word ‘fidere’ which means ‘to trust’; therefore, having a self-confidence is having trust in one’s self.”

Think about the most confident person you know. How do they act? How do they show up for their jobs, their relationships, their life, and themselves?

Now, think about a time when you felt confident. Maybe it was walking into the classroom for an exam you had been studying for all night. Maybe it was walking into the office of a job you really wanted, ready to crush the interview. Or maybe it was walking out on the sports field, ready to bring your best game to the table and dominate your opponents.

How did you feel in these moments? How did you get to this feeling?

Building Confidence

Confidence comes with experience.

The exam you were ready to ace, due to the endless hours you spent studying for it, meant you had experience on the subject.

The job interview you were ready to crush was due partly to your preparation for the encounter, and partly to your previous work experience.

The game you were ready to show your best performance for (and win) was due to the experience you gained from the hundreds of games you played before.

So, if becoming confident in any area of your life requires experience, and experience comes from involvement or exposure—then confidence is ultimately built with time.

Achieving Confidence

Confidence is built with time.

It’s built with endless hours of practice. Practice towards a desired goal. Fueled by a fire inside that grows brighter with every second practiced. Until you feel with every cell in your body that you can achieve whatever you are aiming for—until you feel confident.

Until you trust yourself.

Confidence in yourself, is trusting yourself.

It’s trusting the preparation you took for your exam. It’s trusting the skills you obtained from your previous jobs. It’s trusting the hard work and dedication you put into practicing your sport.

It’s feeling on top of the world.

It’s feeling like you can handle anything that comes your way.

Confidence is achievable by every single one of us. All it takes, is taking the first step—and that’s where courage comes in.

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Courage

Courage is defined as “the choice and willingness to confront agony, pain, danger, uncertainty, or intimidation.”

The first part of courage is choice and willingness.

Whenever you want something bad enough, whenever you want something to change; you have to make the choice.

Change requires stepping out of your comfort zone, and nobody is confident their first time treading these waters. But it is those who have the courage to put on their life vest and start swimming away from their comfort and towards their desired change—those who are courageous—who develop confidence in the end.

The second part of courage is confronting fear.  

Fear does not discriminate. It paralyzes everyone at some point in their lives. It’s waiting for you on the other side of your comfort zone. It’s the reason you have such a hard time crossing the line; making the choice to make the change.

But here’s a little secret…it’s all in your head!

Fear: The Kryptonite of Courage

So, what are we so afraid of?

Fear of failure.

Fear of expectations.

Fear of our lack of ability.

Fear of regret.

Making a significant change in your life, stepping out of your comfort zone, and trying something new brings up these feelings around fear.

It runs the risk of failure…but it also offers the chance for success. Is your fear of failure greater than your faith in succeeding?

It daunts us with other people’s expectations…but it also provides us an opportunity to exceed those expectations. Is your fear of not living up to others’ expectations greater than your faith in surpassing them and creating expectations of your own?

It highlights our lack of ability—our inexperience—but it also allows us to develop a new skill. Is your fear of inexperience greater than your faith in your ability to build your skillset?

It comes with the potential for regret, but it also holds a place for satisfaction. Is your fear of regret greater than your faith in your self-induced satisfaction and happiness?

Choosing Confidence and Courage

“It’s better to be a lion for a day than a sheep all your life.” –Elizabeth Kenny

confidence and courage

Lions are courageous (except for the one on Wizard of Oz, but he eventually developed his own). They are the king of the jungle. They choose courage over fear every single day. These choices bring about their sense of confidence.

Sheeps are the opposite. They do what they’re told. They stay in their herd, blend in with the crowd, and passively move through life. They choose comfort every single day.

For some, the sheep life may be “okay”; but life is not meant to just be “okay”.

Life should be more than okay. Your life should be more than okay. It should not be passive, it should be active. It should not be paralyzed by fear, it should be fueled by courage.

What is one area of your life that you can rally up the courage to make a change that will turn your life from “okay” to “exceptional”?

Is it going to the gym for the first time? Starting your side hustle? Quitting your corporate job and following your dream? Talking to the person you admire? Revealing a deep secret? Standing up for yourself?

Think about the most confident person you know. How do they act? How do they show up for their jobs, their relationships, their life, and themselves?

With courage.

Now think of yourself as the most confident person you know, and use courage every single day to show up for your job, your relationships, and your life—to make the choice to change.

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